Tips for Each Dating Stage of Life

Dating is not limited to any particular age. It’s a very diverse experience that may begin in high school and, depending on circumstances, continue throughout adulthood. Of course, what a college student views as “dating” will almost certainly differ from the perspective of, say, a middle-aged single parent. But some common threads run through the entire gamut of possibilities.

So, how should people approach dating as they progress through the stages of life? Fortunately, some useful tips can make a potentially tricky process smoother. In the name of making that happen, let’s examine the stages and see what we can discover.

Dating at Each Stage of Life

From Ages 20 to 30

couple on a date

In this day and age, the 20-something crowd is the most active on dating apps. This is a significant change across all age groups, but the younger crowd is at the forefront. Even so, outside of hook-up apps, online dating remains a search for compatibility and availability. This enduring trend is influenced today by economic factors that affect plans to “settle down.” Also, while casual sex has always been a present reality, it seems to be more commonly accepted today as an end goal in this age range.

From Ages 30 to 45

Yes, this is a broad range, but folks tend to feel less urgent about finding “the one” in their 20s. By your mid-30s, you may have a secure career trajectory. Thus, you can focus more on finding a partner. You do so with far more experience to lean on to understand issues like compatibility, finances, and other major decisions.

From Mid-40s Through Retirement and Beyond

This stage, of course, is a series of stages. That said, they all share some important shifts. Your priorities have changed, your experience level is higher, and you should have a better grasp of what feels important to you. Just because society uses labels like “old” doesn’t mean you aren’t attractive, and you can’t try methods like dating apps. Love is possible at any age, and there’s no reason to settle.

Tips for All Dating Stages of Life

Don’t Limit Yourself

The younger crowd may feel they’re not ready. In the middle group, you might hear talk of being too busy with careers, etc. Once you pass your 40s, it’s all too easy to believe that the dating ship has sailed. In reality, all such lists are self-imposed. See what happens when you decide the sky’s the limit.

Set and Enforce Boundaries

The nuts and bolts of dating change as the years and decades pass. However, the need for boundaries never vanishes. Assess your needs, wants, dealbreakers, and desires. Then, set and enforce your boundaries as you strive to respect the boundaries of those you meet. Whether you’re 22 or 72, no one has the right to disrespect you. Set this as your baseline before you come up with other dating dos and don’ts.

Take the Focus Off Your Age

Run your own race. Rather than hyper-focusing on what stage you’re in, put your time and effort into living a healthy, meaningful life. Practice self-care, try new things, and defy societal expectations. Take active steps to turn the rest of your life into the best of your life. Qualities like these are very attractive at any age.

Reach Out For Help

One of the many benefits of relationship therapy is that it’s effective at any age. If you have questions and concerns about your romantic life, your sessions are precisely where you’ll get the guidance you seek. Dating at any age can be both joyful and challenging. Fortunately, you’re not alone, and professional support is just a click or call away.

About Kathryn Bowen MS, LCPC: Kathryn (Kittie) Bowen MS, LCPC, is a licensed therapist and founder and director of Bozeman Counseling Center, a large group practice in Montana. She is passionate about helping people get unstuck so that they can start thriving in all important areas of life. Counseling and Coaching is a second career for her. She started out in the corporate world, worked crazy hours, and had zero work-life balance. Twenty years ago she made the decision to leave her executive position and pursue her love of human potential and personal development. After attending graduate school in Mental Health Counseling, at Montana State University, she established a private practice providing therapy to individuals and couples. She provides workshops and training events for therapists, corporations, and non-profit organizations. She loves meditation, brain science, gardening, and enjoying Montana!
Kathryn Bowen

Kathryn (Kittie) Bowen, MS, LCPC, is the the founder and director of Bozeman Counseling Center. She is passionate about helping people get unstuck so that they can start thriving in all important areas of life. Eighteen years ago Kittie made the decision to leave her executive position and pursue her love of human potential and personal development. After attending graduate school in Mental Health Counseling, she established a private practice providing therapy to individuals and couples.

Education:
  • Undergraduate - BS in Business, Accounting, Western Washington University

  • Graduate - MS in Mental Health Counseling, Monana State University

License:
  • Montana BBH-LCPC-LIC-1579

https://www.bozemancounselingcenter.com/kathryn-bowen
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